For so long, I didn’t get to choose. When she lived with us, I HAD to buy plane tickets every month, she HAD to miss school, I HAD to fly with her every time, it HAD to be the exact dates they wanted. There were no other options.
So now that we have more control over visitation, it feels so much easier. I still feel limited by our situation but in a different way. I feel like I have a choice now.
I really hate being controlled and that’s exactly what was happening every month when she lived with us. Our court paperwork didn’t give me any options.
So even though it’s not the perfect custody agreement, I look at how far we’ve come and I’m so grateful for that progress.