When I moved to Utah as a single mom, I had to completely start over. I found a full time job working retail and had family watch my little girl while I was gone. It was so hard to give up being a stay at home mom, but I now had the responsibility of providing for myself and my daughter. Eventually I found a job at a baby boutique where I was able to bring her to work with me every day and it was absolutely perfect.
At first, I couldn’t afford my own apartment so I moved into my grandparent’s basement. They had just moved into a quiet neighborhood in Farmington that turned out to be *fate.
I started attending the local church, meeting other new moms, and quickly making friends. It felt like I was exactly where I needed to be. I had no interest in getting into a relationship and dating was far from my mind.
In reality, things just became so much more difficult. There were certain ambiguities in our paperwork that they took advantage of. They got her for every holiday. They wouldn’t let her fly by herself. So we were paying over $1000 per month just for plane tickets and I would have to fly across the country with her, leaving my other kids and husband alone for every holiday. It was so hard but we did it.
It even got to the point where they said she couldn’t miss any school but we had to have her there by 6pm on Friday when their weekend began- which was physically impossible. I would fly 3,000 miles across the country and they wouldn’t even meet me at the airport.
The situation was unsustainable because they made things incredibly difficult. They weren’t easy to work with and they were wearing me down.
It finally got so bad that I called my attorney to discuss options going forward to address the issues we were facing. He drafted a letter to send to their attorney and we prepared to go back to court again. I have so much distrust for the system and post traumatic stress associated with the process but I couldn’t see any other way. Something had to change.